Peter Parker was a “normal kid” who always seemed to have the best interest of others in mind. He was kind, loyal, and intelligent. He became Spider-man when he was bit by a radioactive spider and developed a Spidey-Sense, super strength, and enhanced reflexes. Spidey-Sense is Spider-man’s ability to sense and react to danger before it happens.
Right before Uncle Ben passed, he reminded Peter Parker to maintain his integrity and continue to mature into a kind man. Uncle Ben famously told Peter, “with great power comes great responsibility.” This means that if you have the ability to do something, make sure that you do it for the good of others.
Your child has the ability and option to make good and “bad” choices every day. The best way to learn is to make mistakes, but doing the right thing is challenging. This week, we will explore Spider-Man and how to discuss choices and how to use your Spidey-sense to your advantage.
1. Discussing good vs bad choices
We go through life every day making decisions. Some decisions are small and some can largely impact our lives. One good or bad decision can shape who we are for the rest of our lives.
When Spider-man was bit by the spider, he became a superhero. He practiced using his web sling, perfecting his strength, and using his fast reflexes to his advantage. Unbeknownst to him, Peter Parker was given a choice to use his powers for good or evil, and Spider-man chose to fight crime and make New York a better and safer place to live.
How you can talk to your child:
“The day Peter Parker was bit by the radioactive spider, he had a choice to make; will I use my power for good or evil? He made the decision to use his power for good and help New York become a safer place to live. That was a brave choice, and Peter Parker became the famous Spider-man!
Has there been a time that you had to make a choice that was difficult? What was that choice and what happened after you made the choice? Making the right choice can be hard, but I am proud of you. Spider-man took on a lot of responsibility when he decided to fight crime and join The Avengers, but he made the right choice and used his powers for good and not evil.”
2. Identifying and using your Spidey-Sense to your advantage
As adults, we are able to identify our intuition or our “Spidey -Sense.” Children have a harder time connecting their intuition to a feeling of right or wrong, but if we can help them identify the physical feeling inside their bodies, they can hone in on their own Spidey- Sense.
Spider-man is famous for his Spidey-Sense. He is able to detect when something is wrong by a feeling inside of his body. By using the 3 A’s (awareness, acknowledgment, and action), Spider-man is able to identify the feeling and leap into action.
How you can talk to your child:
“One of Spider-man’s most famous superpowers is his Spidey-Sense. Spider-man is able to sense when something is wrong and spring into action. You also have a Spidey-Sense, and if your intuition is used to your advantage, you can sense things that are wrong which can help you use your good judgment.
Spider-man is able to use the 3 A’s - awareness, acknowledgment, and action- when he feels his Spidey-Sense go off. He is aware that he feels, he acknowledges the feeling, says out loud “my Spidey-Sense is going off,” and makes the decision to jump into action to fight crime. What does your Spidey-Sense look like? When you are high on the playground, do you get a feeling that it is unsafe to jump [insert your own example here]? Have you ever had a feeling in your stomach that makes you think you are not making a good decision?”
3. “With great power comes great responsibility”
When Peter Parker’s Uncle Ben passes, he tells Peter, “with great power comes great responsibility.” This is a powerful line and reminds Peter and the viewers that if Peter has the ability to do something, make sure he does it for the good of others.
Making decisions for the greater good or the good of others can be taxing and exhausting. We can see that Spider-man is overwhelmed by fighting crime, but makes the hard decision to continue to fight and eventually joins The Avengers.
How you can talk to your child:
“When Uncle Ben passed away, he tells Peter Parker, ‘with great power comes great responsibility.’ That is a powerful line and has a lot of meaning. What does that mean to you? Do you feel like you have a lot of responsibility to make good decisions?
When making decisions, we have to think about how they will affect us as well as the greater good. Spider-man continues to fight crime to make New York a safer place. How do you think that affects Spider-man, always having to do the right thing? Has there been a time when you have made a good decision? Or a time when you made a bad decision, and got in trouble?”
To wrap up, here is an example of a script to talk to your child:
“Peter Parker was a normal teenager before he was bit by a radioactive spider and became Spider-man. Right before his Uncle Ben passed away he told Peter, “with great power comes great responsibility.” This quote shaped Peter Parker and Spider-man’s life. Spider-man decided to use his new powers for good and worked to save New York City from crime and eventually joined The Avengers.
Spider-man’s choice to use his powers for good may have been a hard one. Sometimes making a good decision is more difficult than making a poor one. Has there been a time when you made a good decision? What did that feel like for you? What would have happened if Spider-man made the decision to use his powers for bad?
Spider-man also has a Spidey-Sense that alerts him of problems and helps him make good decisions. Did you know that you also have a Spidey-Sense? We call your Spider-Sense intuition and it can be used to your advantage. Do you ever get a feeling in your stomach that tells you something is wrong?-That is your Spidey-Sense! It is important to notice when your Spidey-Sense goes off because it can help you make a good decision!”
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Whitney Thompson, LCPC is a Psychotherapist and Owner of Anchor Counseling Centers.